• Myriam K.

My life as a computer scientist

Mis à jour : 11 mai 2020

“You know what, you are kind of skilled for a girl !”

Disclaimer: I don’t want to put everyone in the same basket.

I just want to express my feeling. I can’t be silent, I don’t want to be silent, regarding certain facts, words that are being done and said. I am quite confident that I am not the only one having to deal with this kind of thing. I know that some of you might recognize themselves through my words, unfortunately.

Since I was little, I was interested in what we say, the “male domains”, I started with football, then I did a technological bachelor’s degree in which we were about 4 girls for 70 boys, then studies senior in software application development. The least I can say is that criticism from a small bunch of those guys was more than usual

But I have always felt, in all these different areas, having to constantly justify myself on my skills, having to do more than a boy, every day, to be taken seriously.

I thought that starting in the professional world, which is more exciting to me, these problems would disappear. I was very naive.

“Hey Myriam, do you know the quota system? In fact, they were looking for strangers and girls and you are both, it’s crazy huh! “

And ?!

At that time, I realized that it was the beginning of a very long time to spend with this kind of people.

I decided to no longer take into account these pests and play the strategy card, responding only calmly and with a certain confidence.

So, I was often entitled to the nickname “wild”  because I don’t let anyone disrespect me.

And again, a woman who does not let anyone disrespect herself be is”a savage”, but what about a man?

I had the opportunity to talk with some girls who told me about the problems they were experiencing every day. You’re probably wondering, “Why are not they leaving?” and I will ask you in return, “Why would they leave?”

Most of these girls think, even now, that anyway being surrounded by malicious people is a foregone conclusion and I say NO!

Do not be afraid to look for something better, especially if you are on the verge of a burnout, that you no longer have the strength to go to work.

“Given the dress you wear, do not be surprised if we jump on you …”

I’ve often been thinking about how to get dressed either “too sexy” or “in pajamas” but I have rarely heard two men do the same thing between them …


Guys, just like you, I come to work to do my job and not to look pretty in the office, in order to motivate you during the day. I do not have to please you and you do not have to think about what I am wearing as long as I respect the rules.

“Can you bend over a little more?”“You know next time, I’ll put a mirror on my foot so I can put it under your desk when you wear a dress”

Some people have no limit or respect.

Complaining about harassment is not easy. See the manager who told me that he would solve the situation, a few days ago, laugh on top of his lungs with the “stalker”, is even less easy.

Continue to suffer from inappropriate remarks, is even harder!

But when we “dare” to defend ourselves, we end up with this kind of comments:

“A woman’s place has never been behind a computer, but behind pots or a broom.”

These comments are not already heavy enough to their liking, I learned that some guys are having fun by doing some sort of rankings, I quote, “the sexiest girls”…

I repeat that I do not, of course, make any generality!

Ladies, trust yourself, surround yourself with good people, you are not alone and there are more people who can help you than you think.

Fortunately, I had the pleasure of meeting great people (women and men) who supported me, trusted and respectful people.

When I decided to leave my old job, I knew that I would not want to join this type of “big” company anymore.

I was looking for a place to work where I could evolve and grow. I wanted to find something who would make me happy to get up every morning. I didn’t want to be scared to hear dirty comments about me.

I quickly realized that making money was no longer the only important criterion, so I directed my research in this way.

I am currently working in a great place that promotes mutual respect and openness.

Exit sex differences, here I am a developer, among other developers.

Yes, these kinds of places are real!

I was lucky to be educated by parents who told me not to doubt me; I am a strong and fulfilled woman and I am not afraid to say it.

Man, Woman or Other, never let anyone make you doubt yourself.

You know your worth, you know your skills and it is because of that you will be able to move on and grow.

Big kiss,



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